50 Shades of my heart

Last night while doing my routine Googling I found the 50 shades of Grey trailer which like everyone else who has read the book did not hesitate to click on it. Firstly I was curious on seeing who was finally selected as Christian Grey and also if it was as sexy as the book described. I remember being excited a while back when they had selected candidates who will play Grey then my interested kind of grew thinner when the person they had chosen at the time wasn’t who I had expected it to be.

I guess that’s the thing with reading books; as you read you picture every little detail and your mind makes you believe that what you are picturing should be as it is, till someone’s version eventually of wins over yours. With the book being turned into a movie you can’t help but sometimes kinda feel disappointed at the choice of actors till they blow you away and pull off the character so well! And well this does not happen all of the time..


Without even getting into the girls, when announcement was made that this guy would play Christian Grey, I was not happy about the choice.



One of my colleagues thought he was hot, while with my one look at him all of that facial hair kinda threw me off. Yeah yeah he may look good shaven and I shouldn’t judge someone in a split second of looking at them but still it wasn’t the Christian Grey I had pictured keeping me glued to the book as I read about his next hot rendezvous.

So that was when I stopped following up on who will play the characters. It felt as though I was starting to take this very personally and I just couldn’t put myself through such emotional turmoil.

Then last night happened, I watched the trailer with great anticipation.

Truth be told I was blown away by the intensity. I was fine with the girl. Mr Grey (Jamie Dornan) definitely was not on top of my list but not a bad choice either.

I guess at the end of the day, you can’t please everyone and one must make try to take the best of moments.The actor I would have loved to play Grey may have not been liked by others Alexander Skarsgard, Matt Bomer or Theo James. So instead of being upset by it all, a little open-mindedness and to give that actor a chance to win you over.

What’s your thought on Jamie Dornan playing Grey? Did the trailer bring back that excitement you had while reading the book?

Share, comment or tweet @13thsanity! Would love to hear what you have to say:D


The first top 5 of my eternal blog success

A few years ago I created my very first blog which I was extremely excited about at the time and I always referred to it as my personal online diary. I didn’t know much about blogging apart from it being a platform to express oneself and fill it with events as they occur in my life or that I could make it more like a Self-help blog. To be honest, I never even thought as far as getting traffic, even though I liked the idea that someone somewhere had viewed it. I guess I was too caught up in the excitement that I had a blog. All I wanted to do was to write and write till my brain goes blank then fills up again.

I’ve had quite a few blogs since then, most of which I forgot I had created them since I would go months without even writing. A miserable failure, especially since each time I’d claim I’d be committed and persistent than ever before.

It always feels like a betrayal to self when you know what your passions are then allow other life’s events get in the way of making a success out of them. It starts feeling as though you’ve cheated on one passion for the other.

And I’ve also found that there is a great risk in sharing your passions with everyone because once you start slacking or putting your dreams on hold for whatever reason, they start believing you less whenever you tell them you’ve learned your errors and are trying again.  “I’m serious this time. I’m going to make it work” I’d say.

So I now guard what I say about the things I want the most and only tell those who will cheer at me giving it another shot. After all it is motivating knowing that someone is rooting for you and encourages you to keep trying.

Where am I now? Well, this being my most recent blog, which I’ve made a vow to being faithful to and give it all I can. I’ve written my blog goals down- What I want to achieve, how far I need to be at the specific time and all the steps I need to take to ensure that I get there.

I’m still learning more; getting as much knowledge as I can from successful bloggers and just how to apply that wisdom into my blog while remaining as original. Starting out at anything does come with its own challenges especially when you want nothing but to succeed at it.

When I think of a post to write, it still feels like it’s my very post ever. I get nervous and excited at the same time. Writing something down is like experiencing an event the second time, only this time the experience only happens mentally and it can’t be manipulated. But how you tell is has the power to turn the most ordinary of tales into an exciting adventure.

All I know is that every post is an opportunity to learn and see what can be done better. And with each new day, the list of what I learned starts all over again…

My top 5  blog tips for today and the vows that will help me get to the next level: 


Vow #1: To add a new post at least twice a week or as often as I’m able to. A week without post, will be as good as wasted..


Vow#2: Try to publish a post that I too would stop to read if it was published by another blogger.


Vow#3: this one working in conjunction with 1st vow- after all it will suffocating to my blog & readers publishing 2 posts at the same time. When the inspiration hits its highest peak, write as much and rather set an auto-schedule timer of when I want the next post to publish.


Vow#4: Since my blog is still at its starting stage, as my success grows as keeping the first 3 vows this too follows. It is after-all very essential. Building great relationship with readers and also more traffic through Social Media.


Vow 5: Like Albert Schweitzer said “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”

What’s the number #1 thing that has made you succeed at blogging?

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Top 5 blogging tips (images) shared from Socially Sorted (sociallysorted.com).

The Prerogativeness of a Customer

A week ago I wrote to one of my favourite grocery stores PicknPay, expressing how unhappy I was at the lack of consistency in their stock supply at one of their branch-stores located in my area of resident. It did not make sense why they would not get more stock when some products ran out while their other branch-stores always had the products available. It started getting pretty ridiculous as a full month will pass by. This would then result in me having to travel to their branch-stores or different grocery stores to get this single product.

It was clearly obvious that someone was starting to slack at his job.

After weeks of questioning the staff who could only give me assumptions of what shall be on the next rise of the full moon, I had to find a way of expressing this growing rage. Luckily I’ve never been exposed to dangerous chemicals and became victim of science experiment or I would have turned like this guy:


Okay, let me not exaggerate. Rage seems like a strong word to use like if someone were to burn my treasure box of memories/sentimentals just because it didn’t mean anything to them. So I was just mildly upset. It was an inconvenience to me.

I then decided to take the initiative to express my dissatisfaction the best way I know how, in words. I wrote a short & sweet email about how unhappy I was and as you read this you’d be happy to know that the Head Office of the store took action. When I went there today I found the product I needed not in a single brand but in different brands/manufactures. I was thrilledJ

Being someone who is passionate about customer services, over the years I have learned how most stores/business owners miss the simple basic things that could keep their customers not only growing but returning. After all there are two types of unsatisfied customers: those who will vent out and let you know just how unhappy they are. And those who will keep their mouth shut, leave the store, tell everyone they know about the bad experience and not return to you buy your products again. I used to prefer the latter, till I realized that not expressing how I feel kept me more dissatisfied and made things even more inconvenient as I’d have to travel further for the things I wanted.

The funny thing is that once you start voicing your opinion/thoughts as consumer you never stop. This habit is addictive especially when you see good results with every complaint. It makes you feel as though you are also standing up for the dissatisfied mute customers who share the same thought as you but are never bothered to take things further.

So is the customer always right? …That’s a question for another post all together.


Obviously you don’t want to be the person who complaints and moans about everything even when it is absolutely not necessary.

The store might be wrong or for all we know you may be at fault asking for the moon at the candy store. My quick complaint step which I follow in my head quickly before opening my mouth is to:

§ Assess the complaint in my head first. Is it in line with my right as a consumer?

§ What are the stores policies? e.g if a store has a return policy of 30days you can’t expect them to treat you like a queen if you return something 50days later.

§ What realistic results or outcome am I expecting from this?

Once you get into the habit of this, you slowly find less things to be dissatisfied about when doing your shopping and things work out for the best for you.

Just don’t shout at poor manager/assistant or use foul language!! It takes too much energy out of you, so why waste it? It also drags the complaint from being dealt with as everyone finds such people nuisance and makes you keep repeating yourself since whoever is helping you will be too focused in learning new swear words from you and trying to keep you calm at the same time.

So if unsatisfied about your next purchase or shopping experience, EXPRESS IT- speak to manager, call or write to the store. After all it is your money you are spending and only fair that you get a good return for it:)

What’s the latest thing you were unhappy about as a consumer? And who did you tell? Interested to know:)

Telling it all with Accessories

Wearing accessories is a fashion statement on its own…LOVE them!!


www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

www.astairwaytofashion.com Daga Ziober & Manuela Frey by Christian Ferretti for Interview Russia July/August 2014

Models: Daga Ziober and Manuela Frey;

Photographed by Christian Ferretti;

Stylist Akari Endo-Gaut;

Hair Joey George;

Makeup Kristi Matamoros;

Manicure Eri Handa.

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Make Good Art

Improvement of self is one of the best thing you can ever do for yourself. For it is when we improve who we are, do we get the courage to achieve what’s beyond.

For the past few years I started to enjoy listening to short audio/clips of any inspiring audio recordings I could possibly find, that being from self-improvement books, autobiographies or any other self-help talks, workshops etc. I would listen to this as I travelled to work or long distances. So in my journeys on the road I would alternate between the inspirational audio clips, reading a book and latest awesome jams. This always does help make the journeys seem shorter.

Anyways I was inspired to write this post after reading some article from an entrepreneurial online mag about making the most of situations.This then took me back to a video link I once received on email of one of the most inspiring speeches given by Neil Gailman (Author) addressing University of Arts graduates. Well, I never studied Art but his speech resonated to me in so many ways that I still apply most of the things he said in my every day experience. Afterall, Life is Art – 10% being the canvass and 90% what you paint on it.

With that said, in painting your canvass called life:

  1. Imagine where you want to be and go for it! Reach for the impossible, despite the rules or assumptions set by mankind.

People who know what they are doing know the rules, and know what is possible and impossible. You do not. And you should notIf you don’t know it’s impossible it’s easier to do. And because nobody’s done it before, they haven’t made up rules to stop anyone doing that again, yet.”


  1. If you have an idea of what you want to do, then go ahead and do it now. Don’t wait for tomorrow!

If you have an idea of what you want to make, what you were put here to do, then just go and do that.”

Opportunities are never lost; someone will take the one you miss“. ~Author Unknown


  1. In every new venture there are always two possible outcomes, failure & success. Be thickskinned no matter how hard you may fall, it’s a lesson to do things a different way.

When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you and be a loser. The choice is yours and yours alone. Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure.” – Mary Kay Ash


  1. Make mistakes. By making mistakes that means you are doing something, and in that a learning experience is gained.

If you’re making mistakes, it means you’re out there doing something. And the mistakes in themselves can be useful.

In the end, you’re measured not by how much you undertake but by what you finally accomplish.” – Donald Trump


  1. Get to know YOU and find your uniqueness. That which makes you stand out and use that to get where you need to be.

“..while you are at it, make your art. Do the stuff that only you can do….The urge, starting out, is to copy. And that’s not a bad thing. Most of us only find our own voices after we’ve sounded like a lot of other people. But the one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.


  1. Make up your own rules and where you feel as though you can’t, imagine yourself as someone who can. Not pretend to do it but pretend to be someone who could do it.

Being an ambivert, the part of my personality that shines or comes out is always dependent on circumstances and the crowd I’m in at the time. With that being said, I would sometimes get highly confident in interviews or particular crowd while in other times I’m a nervous wreck. So whenever I start feeling that racing heart-throb and could feel my insides start to tremble, in that very moment I start imagining myself as someone who could do it. I pretend I am that person. I let my mind wander and imagine being in some tv show, see this person blooming with confidence, expressing herself in the best ways and getting herself that great job/business opportunity. And just at that very moment, I get into that role. I pretend to be the person who could do it. This has worked great wonders.

I hope this will help you as much as it did me. And that you enjoyed reading it.

Above quotes are from Neil Gailman’s speech and those that aren’t I have added the names of the persons they were said by.

Here’s Neil Gailman’s speech, please share. If it doesn’t move you as much, it could do wonders to those near you.

Thank you for reading!

Welcome to the world of the Extraordinaires

I’m one of those people who love having a good measure of spontaneity with a right amount of routine on the side. I love putting things where I’ll know I will find them. I sometimes put labels on things even when its not necessary (I mean I stay by myself and don’t suffer from amnesia), yet I would still go ahead with labeling a container especially when unpacking something from its original packaging . I love arranging things in blending colors that compliment each other, stripes stick together and the darks at the bottom shelf of my wardrobe. The cds stacked according to genres but the dvds according to the color of dvd case. And no I don’t suffer from any OCD, neither am I in denial about it.

In my loving where to find what I’m looking for, I recently started getting upset with two of my local grocery stores for not frequently stocking my favorite products and today I took the initiative to write them an informal email about my dissatisfaction as a customer for their lack of consistency on their stock. I felt very inconvenience as customer to have to travel to a different outlet to get what I used to normally get a stone throw away from my apartment.  I understand if a product gets discontinued by the manufacture, but it does not make sense if you can find it from the exact same store branch that’s in a different location than yours. I mean why is it that one branch can get the products right and the other can’t. It’s upsetting when people do not do their jobs right, it causes a lot of unnecessary inconvenience and emotions of anger on those who get affected.

 Having had an intensive experience  in customer services I have found that a large percentage of people would rather settle for what they get or shop elsewhere, while there is still a percentage who take the initiative to put their concerns forward. Do not get me wrong, there are people who just love complaining to fulfill their egoistic nature in trying to prove that they know better than the rest. I’ve had an experience with all types of customers and with others you can even feel and tell from their voice just how much fun they are getting from complaining about something they are not deserving of.. But this is for another post..

So, back to keeping things where I’d like them to be…

I can be very messy at times. I would do things as if I’m in an endless music video and the success of the video is dependent on the level of spontaneity I add on it. Those spare of the moment things that make you feel like you are living a complete life. I’m a very chaotically orderly person and on this blog will be sharing my outdoor experiences from secret-shopping, actual shopping and eating out, stories from awesome events, venting out all my bad or good customer services experiences, pics of this & that and rating everything in between.

Hope you’ll enjoy!:)